‘The inner reality creates the outer form’ – Phylicia Allen Rashad, Actress
“I was born to a very beautiful family. My father looked like a matinee idol; my mother was literally so beautiful that she would stop traffic. When I looked in the mirror, all I could think was that when I was born, God was on a lunch break. I didn’t look pretty, so I set out to be very good at what I did. I found self-esteem in other ways — I was a majorette, I sang in the choir, I played viola, I ended up being a very good student. It wouldn’t be until much later that I felt beautiful.
I would tell [my younger self] not to be so preoccupied with looking for approval from other people. You’re never going to be anybody other than who you are, and who you are is greater than [you] imagine. The way that we think creates our reality — it’s very powerful. I would say to a young girl who’s feeling insecure about her looks, ‘Stop!’ Who you are is not the way you look — who you are is who you are on the inside. There’s not a mirror in the world that can show you that. It is beautiful; it is amazing; it is awesome.
There’s always something to suggest that you’ll never be who you wanted to be. Your choice is to take it or keep on moving. Everything you do, every thought you have, every word you say creates a memory that you will hold in your body. It’s imprinted on you and affects you in subtle ways — ways you are not always aware of. With that in mind, be very conscious and selective. What’s in front of you is a whole world of experiences beyond your imagination. Put yourself, and your growth and development, first.
My mother gave us aphorisms to learn as children, there are two that stand out foremost in my mind, one is: ‘the inner reality creates the outer form’ I learned this when I was in grade school, [I was] very young and the other is: ‘the universe bears no ill to me, I bear no ill to it.’ There are long-term repercussions to what you’re doing now. Everything you do, every thought you have, every word you say creates a memory that you will hold in your body. It’s imprinted on you and affects you in subtle ways?ways you are not always aware of. With that in mind, be very conscious and selective.
Grace is always present, and there comes a time when you really must be conscious of that presence and turn your face to it, otherwise, you’re just walking blindly through life. When you’re free from the idea of doership then something else within you emerges. It is yourself.” – Phylicia as told to Oprah and via quotes found here.
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Morning Glamazons!! Up on the blog is the full interview and musings of legend Phylicia Rashad who shares some wisdom imparted on her, by her own mother.💕 . . 🌌This is legacy. Each one teach one. ▫ "The inner reality, creates the outer form." "The Universe bares no ill to me; I bare no ill to it."🙏🏾 ▫ ▫ You get to decide the value of your experience. Trust that you have everything that you need, in order to take the next step forward… And in those moments of doubt, trust that you will figure it out… You always have, haven't you?🙏🏾🙏🏿🤰🏽 #alwaysoncall #alwaysonpurpose #givebirthtosomthingbeautiful #peacebeginswithbirth #findyourtribe #fbf #mother #birth #postpartum #birthdoula #Mondaymotivation #phyliciarashad
The first African-American woman to win a Tony Award for Best Actress for her theatrical work in “A Raisin in the Sun,” Phylicia Rashad won our hearts as our forever sitcom mom as Clair Huxtable on “The Cosby Show.” In quotes collected on her thoughts on womanhood, beauty, self-love, empowerment and determination, we celebrate her being and sisterhood.